Being a "Soft Girl" is a Radical Act (Especially for me)
HIIIIIIYAAA everyone! (｡♥‿♥｡)
I have a slightly controversial take today. We always hear about the "Soft Life" aesthetic on TikTok, you know, the silk robes, sheet masks, the $10 lattes, and the perfectly clean white apartments. It looks cute, but for me, being a "Soft Girl" is more than just a vibe. It’s more than just some trend, but it’s more of a lifestyle that I am working towards.
I feel like “soft girl” is a revolution for me personally.
Why I’m "Retiring" from Being Strong
I’m retired. I don’t want to be "strong" anymore.
Being strong usually just means "suffering in silence so other people don’t feel uncomfortable." It means hiding my pain so I don't seem "dramatic." It means acting like I don't need help when I'm drowning and desperately need it.
Choosing Kawaii Over "Grind"
I decided that for 2026, my new identity is Soft. I want to surround myself with cute plushies (shoutout to Mr. Pickles). My cute stuffed animal with a top hat and classy mustache.
1. I want to wear pastels and oversized hoodies that make me feel safe.
2. I want to write romance novels where everyone gets a happily ever after.
3. I want to be a "Lover Girl" who isn't afraid to blush and be shy.
The Truth
Society doesn’t always "allow" disabled Black women to be soft. They expect us to be the backbone, the workers, the ones who "handle things” and quietly. However? I haven’t chronic pain so I am labeled a different way (“lazy” etc).
For me, whenever I put on a cute outfit and lean into my "kawaii" side, I’m actually telling the world this: "I am a human. I am delicate. I deserve to be taken care of too”. There is no weight, age, racial or any limit to what kawaii is. We can ALL be kawaii and we can rock our cute clothes together.
I’m not losing weight or building my business to fit into a "hustle" box. I’m doing it to build a life where I can finally just... breathe.
Being soft doesn't mean I'm weak. if anything, I think it is what makes me strong.
Do you ever feel like you're "forced" to be strong? What would your life look like if you chose to be soft instead? Let’s talk about it.
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